During the camp last week we played the equestrian mason jar game again. This time I got the note asking you to share a past mistake that ended up being a great teachable moment. Looking back my life is lined with mistakes, and somehow I got blinded by the trees and couldn't think of a good one to share with a useful outcome. Afterwards it bugged me, since I'm a firm believer that "mistakes are only a failure if you don't learn from it". Than it hit me. That's exactly it. Basically every single aha-moment I have had in the saddle has been a direct result of previous mistakes or "failures"! It's the searching, bumping along the road, that eventually brings you to the right answer. If you stop trying new ways, stop asking new questions, STOP FAILING, the progress stops. Those riders I work with that have a tendency to be too hard on themselves or their horse tend to improve at a slower pace. I believe this to be a direct result of the fear of making a mistake, and right there making the biggest one of all. There is also a difference in the mindset between the two ways to look at mistakes. The first has an exploratory feel to it, like you're turning every stone along the path, the second has a sense of defeat attached to it and will make you rigid and stagnant. When I was a teenager I worked with an environmental organization for awhile. One of my chores was to stand on the street and approaching people to share information on important projects we were working on to drum up support and to educate. Perhaps not surprisingly, not everyone was open to having that dialog in the middle of their busy day. During our training we were told every "no" brings you closer to a "yes". I think that mindset can help us to stay positive and constructive in the saddle. Every failure brings us closer to success!
Go search for your next aha-moment 🦄